The SORRY Apology

(excerpt from "The WARRIOR'S EDGE" book, now available

Words Fix Nothing

Simply being sorry means that the harm from the problem still exists.  And agree with me or not, this problem is "us" for thinking that we can cure a bad deed with simple words.  When making a mistake don't say sorry and remain an existing problem.  Be proud and become the solution!  Bring a payment that makes people HOPE that you will do something wrong again and have to compensate them for it.  Trust me.  You won't be sorry for it.

Public Wrong, Public Right

If an act of mistreatment is executed by one person to another while in the presence of others (publicly), it is not the same as it occurring in private.  First of all, regardless of who we were targeting and intending to address, any surrounding bystanders who could see and/or hear the incident socially & LEGALLY become part of it as a witness.  Secondly, the level of damage that your target experiences from your deed is increased by the element of “public humiliation”.  Public Humiliation also can be experienced by patrons who witness the event.  Whether one chooses to recognize, or not collateral damage is created by the one who decides to boldly mistreat another in the presence of un-involved others.  

Has To Hurt To Work

If the one who did the public dirty deed decides to rightfully apologize for his behavior, it must be done under the same or similar circumstances.  In other words, the apology for a public wrongdoing can not be made privately and be considered sincere or just.  To somewhat balance the disrespect and embarrassment of the incident, the apology would have to be made by the offender, to the victim in front of those who witnessed the embarrassment of the person that was mistreated.  An apology such as this most likely won’t erase all of the harm caused by the initial incident, but it will demonstrate the sincerity of the apology by the offender who is willing to jump through a small hoop, and present himself for public embarrassment to try and repair things. (finish reading this chapter and more in "The WARRIOR'S EDGE" book".

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